What do you hate NOT doing?
In his article Derek Sivers shares a great thought which I want to spread as well. Derek thinks about why weÂ´re asking ourselves “What makes us happy?” over and over again? He points out that emotion-based answers often conflict with our expectations – and to be honest, he is right.
“IÂ´m a musician, but I love working alone. Does that mean I should be a producer instead of a performer?”
Instead, we should ask ourselves: “What do you hate NOT doing?”
“What makes you feel icky, irritated, annoyed or off-track if you donÂ´t do it enough?”
I hate not reading
Whenever it seems that there is no time for my daily Golden Hour, IÂ´m getting nervous. IÂ´ve set my goal and it has become my daily habit – so I hate not reading or following my daily routine.
I hate not learning
Through the reading or even doing this blog I try to learn every day something new or at least improve myself just a little. I recently started learning HTML and CSS and want to learn just a chapter a day and summarize it to recap the learned stuff from time to time. I hate when I canÂ´t do that!
I hate not riding my motorbike
Even though last season I havenÂ´t found the time I usually spend riding my bike, I enjoy every single time IÂ´m finally crusing. It reminds me on different joys of life and some great memories and so I hate not riding my motorbike.
I hate not travelling
And so on ….
Asking the double-negative seems to be a better indicator of what I really love doing, than asking it in the positive.
He is absolutely right. People who are really busy but like reading or learning would say “I like reading, but IÂ´m often too busy …” – by saying “I hate not reading!” there is the double negative and we can trick our own mindset.
And the mindset is the most powerful tool we have.